TiO 15 – The Art of Relationship – The Lost Art of Handling Criticism
The Main Idea
Criticism is most often used as a bad word these days. But at its core it can simply be “the act of judging the merits or faults of something.” However, we neither give nor receive criticism very well and most often it consists of tearing others down with no good resulting. This week Todd spoke from Proverbs about constructive ways to both give and receive criticism from others.
Warm Up Questions: (Choose 1 or 2)
Q1: Are you a detail-oriented person?
Q2: Have you ever been asked, as an expert, for your opinion on something? Tell that story.
Q3: If you could fix one thing about the City of Winnipeg (something fixable, the weather is not a good example here) what would it be?
Read the main passages aloud: Proverbs 10:17 and Proverbs 13:18
Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life, but one who rejects a rebuke goes astray.
Poverty and disgrace are for the one who ignores instruction, but one who heeds reproof is honoured.
If we are going to make our relationships with other people better than they are, we need to be able to both give and accept criticism.
Q1: In what kinds of circumstances (certain people, certain actions) do you find that the criticism you give does not produces the effects you desire? What can you do to change both the nature of your criticism and the effect that it might have?
Q2: Who are you most likely to accept criticism from? Who are you least likely to accept criticism from? Do your biases ever prevent you from learning from others? What can you do to change that?
We’d encourage all groups to pray together at some point in their meeting. This affirms that regardless of the purpose of the group, God is still the focus.