TiO 15 – The Art of Relationship – The Lost Art of Managing Anger
The Main Idea
Being angry is not bad. But anger uncontrolled, anger that is not a slave to your mind can cause problems in relationships, some which can last a lifetime. So, what does the Bible tell us about anger how to manage it and how to have conflict without sinning?
Warm Up Questions: (Choose 1 or 2)
Q1: Have you ever experienced road rage? That is, been a victim or or seen it live and in person? Tell that story.
Q2: Have you ever been on the receiving end of someone who is angry at a system that you are the face of? Eg., you are a salesperson at a store and someone is angry with the service, or a waiter at a restaurant and the customers are angry because the food is bad.
Q3: Thinking back to the research that Zach did (or your own experience), what kinds of incidents or behaviours are currently triggers in our society for anger or rage?
Read the main passage aloud: Ephesians 4:26-27
Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not make room for the devil.
Anger is not bad, it is a reaction to circumstance. Sometimes anger is justified and prompts us to make wrong things right and to fix what is broken in the world. But often-times anger is a result of our own insecurities and hurts. And the trigger of a memory or a sense of repeated wrong to us can cause us to explode. But Paul says that when we are angry we should not sin because when we do we let the devil into our lives.
Q1: Generally, what makes you angry? Eg., people who do not clean up after their dogs on walking paths.
Q2: What circumstances and actions on the part of important people in your life (spouse, friends, family) make you angry?
Q3: How do you manage your anger? Eg., you smash household objects. Which of those management “techniques” are good and which are not?
Q4: What practical things can you do to control your anger?
Pray together that God would help you to “be angry and yet not sin.”